Understanding Loneliness: Why I Want to Be Alone vs. True Loneliness

Have you ever experienced a soul-crushing loneliness when you don’t have much going on in your life? The kind that makes you reflect on your life and ask, “Where did I go wrong?”

Brotatochip, perhaps, you're not the only one who has felt this way for a while, but haven’t figured out the root cause. Living in a world where we can either deal with our issues or escape them, we sometimes run away from ourselves for too long. Eventually, the Universe says, "Hold up, you have been running away from yourself for a little too long. Let’s sit in this loneliness until you realize something important about life and the way you live it."

Human lifestyles today often lead to loneliness and a sense of emptiness. Chasing trends and fun times cannot last forever. Sometimes, life stands still, and we need to stop running away from ourselves and address the way we live. Loneliness can be a realization that the sense of comfort we seek actually disconnects us from the feeling of oneness with the world. This crippling loneliness can force us to meditate on why it happens and is something many are afraid of experiencing.

So, if you want to be alone, you should have a reason. It's obvious that being alone without social interaction can lead to loneliness. However, this doesn't necessarily mean you are lonely.

Why Solitude Can Be Positive

Don't feel bad. I have known my shadow my entire life, and it has yet to say anything to me — no happy birthday, no “wash your ass now, we have to get up early in the morning” — nothing! Being alone doesn’t equate to being lonely, and you can be 100% happy within yourself. If you don’t talk to anyone, it could be because you don’t have friends, but being alone can also be a positive situation. It can be an opportunity to find inner peace, take yourself out on a date, and even get outside and go somewhere to socialize.

Exploring Social Media for Support

There are plenty of support groups and online communities where you can connect with others who share your interests. Social media can be a great resource to find and join these groups. Whether you are looking for a date, a social event, or just someone to talk to, consider using social media as a tool to expand your social circle.

Embracing the Journey

If you feel that you are somewhere in between — you want to be alone but also feel loneliness — here are some steps you can take:

Identify the reasons for your desire to be alone. Are you seeking solitude or isolation? Explore the root of your loneliness. Is it because of past experiences or a lack of meaningful connections? Practice self-care. Engage in activities that make you happy and content, whether it’s reading, hiking, or practicing mindfulness. Expand your social circle. Consider joining groups or clubs that align with your interests. You can even start small by meeting friends for a coffee or joining a local meet-up group. Consider therapy or counseling if your feelings of loneliness persist. Sometimes, professional help can offer valuable insights and strategies to deal with your emotions.

In conclusion, understanding loneliness is key to finding the right balance between being alone and feeling lonely. By embracing solitude and actively seeking meaningful connections, you can lead a fulfilling and happy life.

Keywords: loneliness, solo living, inner peace, happiness, social media