The Struggle for Co-Parenting Amidst Neglect: A Mother's Journey

Co-parenting with an unwilling or neglectful ex-partner can be one of the most challenging experiences any parent can face. This is especially true when the other parent prioritizes personal gain over the well-being of their children.

Worsening the Situation

Anytime we disagreed on something or when he was feeling anger towards me, he would cancel visits with our child. His willingness to co-parent was contingent upon my being present, indicating his limited interest in the child's upbringing.

The 6-Month Pregnant Dilemma

During a particularly trying time in my life, I was 6 months pregnant with triplets. Yet, I was supposed to be in the hospital, but my babies wanted their mother, not just any figure. The doctor required me to be on strict bed rest, with my husband staying with me for two weeks while I was on blood thinners. My husband chose to take emergency leave from his job, picked me up, and we promptly went home. He then rearranged his schedule to work two jobs to support our lifestyle. If I had miscarried, I would have bled to death in front of my children. His stance was clear, co-parenting was a low priority.

The Court's Decision: A Turning Point

My marriage ended with a custody battle. My husband was granted custody of our two sons, citing concerns about their safety when they were with me. The court agreed with his stance, stripping me of my role in their lives. My world changed drastically, and my role as a parent was seemingly nullified. It was a defining moment of my struggle to protect my children.

The Dangers of Inattention

One day, I received a distressing call from my youngest son, who had narrowly avoided a serious bullet wound while playing at his father's house. The family home had a peculiar fireplace design, which unwittingly became a hazard for the children. My eldest son, the designated Golden Child, had inserted bullets into the heating holes, a hidden danger that only came to light during the winter. The reality of my children's precarious situation hit home when my youngest son first thought he was hit by a spark, only later learning the truth through his brother's confession.

The Disregard for Basic Needs

Despite the children's basic healthcare being available through Native American services due to my heritage, the Narcissist did not provide health care to our children for over eight years. This neglect extended to their daily needs, including personal hygiene products, new clothing, and even sports activities. It was particularly distressing to see my youngest son, the designated Scapegoat, struggle with constantly growing shoes and the golden child being denied the opportunity to pursue sports due to financial constraints.

Legal Battles and Unheeded Cry for Help

I filed for an Order to Show Cause, detailing the neglect and abuse. Despite California Statute requiring officers to report suspected child abuse, the judge dismissed my concerns due to a note from the Narcissist's mother stating regular doctor visits. This decision sent a clear message that my concerns were null, and my role as a parent was merely nominal.

The Power of Resilience

Despite the adversities, my children managed to stay alive through sheer determination and the power of prayer. This experience has profoundly impacted my understanding of the critical importance of parental rights and the devastating consequences of neglect.

Conclusion and Key Points

Co-parenting with someone who prioritizes personal gain over their children's well-being can be extremely taxing. It is crucial for all parents to prioritize their children's needs and to fight for their rights in legal and practical matters.

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