When Regret Leads to Extreme Feelings: A Guide to Overcoming Self-Harm Thoughts

When you feel like you deserve to die because of something you did, it is important to recognize that these feelings aren't facts.

Understanding the Root of Your Feelings

It's crucial to remember that feelings aren't facts. Just because you hear something inside your head doesn't mean it's true. Many people have regrettable actions in their past, and it's natural to feel like you deserve worse. However, it's vital to understand the underlying reasons for your actions and the context in which they occurred.

People are the result of various experiences, shaped by parents, siblings, teachers, and others. Over the years, you may have absorbed negative messages about yourself that aren't true. These messages can deeply impact you every day, often stemming from parents or other influential figures in your life. It's important to examine these messages and explore the reasons behind your actions.

Common Negative Messages and Their Impact

Many people carry around messages that can be harmful and untrue, such as:

I’m unlovable. There’s something really wrong with me. No one would ever be interested in me or my opinions because I’m [insert negative term like useless, boring, stupid, etc.]. I’m worse than every other human being, so I better just stay by myself. I’m so [insert negative term like tired, depressed, etc.] that I better just kill myself.

When you hear these negative messages, it's time to develop compassion for yourself. Think about what you would say to a friend who is struggling the same way you are. Often, this perspective can be much more supportive than the internal critic you're addressing.

Seeking Help and Support

It’s important to know that you're not alone. Many people struggle with regret and negative self-talk. If you're feeling like you may hurt yourself, act immediately. If you're in the United States, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. Additionally, going to the emergency room of the nearest hospital and telling them you are thinking of killing yourself may be another option.

There are also trusted adults, teachers, counselors, parents, neighbors, or aunts and uncles who can offer support and help guide you toward professional assistance if needed.

Personal Reflection and Healing

Personal experience shows that it's possible to work through your darkness, just as I did in the past. I've thought about suicide and even attempted it, but through therapy and personal healing, I feel much better now. You too can work through your challenges and find a new sense of peace and self-worth.

Remember, you don’t deserve to die over this. There is hope, and resources available to help you navigate your feelings and regain control of your life. If you ever feel like you're struggling with these thoughts, please reach out for help. You matter, and there are people who want to support you.

Wishing you all the best on your journey toward healing.