Narcissism in the Church: A Hidden Danger
It is safe to assume that there are narcissists within the church community, and some of these individuals might occupy positions of influence such as deacons, preachers, and other top leadership roles. Let us explore the various traits exhibited by these individuals and the challenges they present to the church and its members.
Traits of Narcissists in the Church
Narcissists often display grandiose and self-promoting behavior, making them skilled orators. They possess an impressive ability to attract and inspire followers, making them ideal preachers and leaders in the church. These individuals appear as natural supporters of their congregants and are willing to take risks to achieve their goals. They are also charismatic, convincingly converting large groups of people with their rhetoric.
They possess a clear vision and a persistent desire to leave behind a lasting legacy for the church. However, it is important to recognize that while these traits might seem positive on the surface, they can be dangerous when driven by a self-centered approach. In fact, many of the tools used by narcissists, such as charm and vision, are often employed by Christians for the greater good, while narcissists use them for their own glory.
Masking the Mask: How Narcissists Manipulate the Church
Narcissists are adept at wearing a mask that can be difficult to penetrate. In public settings, where they receive significant support, they can appear as perfect leaders. However, when no one important is around or when the supply is reduced, they can exhibit a different side entirely. They have the ability to lose control when they choose to, often leading to manipulative and distressing behaviors.
It is particularly concerning when narcissistic individuals hold positions of leadership in the church. The ability to connect and inspire followers can be used for both good and harmful purposes. For instance, a narcissist may be charming in the early stages of a relationship, creating a sense of hope and excitement. As trust is established, they might make promises or even present unrealistic expectations to their followers, hoping that they will provide support and resources.
Examples of Narcissism in the Church
Consider the example of a charismatic church leader who promised his followers something in return for their support. He might say, 'If you help me establish the rental business, I will support you in starting your beauty shop.' Such promises can be deeply ingrained in the followers' minds, leading them to believe that their support is crucial for achieving their dreams. However, as time passes, the individual may begin to recast the reality or even lie about the promises made earlier. In this case, the narcissist might claim, 'You helped me get out of illegal activities, and that is why I started the rental business.'
Matthew 7:5: Beware of False Prophets
Jesus' warning in Matthew 7:5, 'Beware of false prophets who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly they are ravenous wolves,' is particularly relevant in the context of narcissism in the church. Many influential preachers and leaders have made significant contributions to their followers, but some have engaged in significant misconduct. For instance, some preachers have used their positions to manipulate their followers, often through chronic broken promises, gaslighting, and manipulation.
It is crucial to exercise caution when evaluating the motives and actions of leaders in the church. A true leader must be able to see things from different perspectives and make decisions that benefit the entire community, not just themselves. Narcissists who exhibit extreme behavior are not only harmful to the church but also to society as a whole. They lack the ability to consider the well-being of others and make fair judgments.
As Christians, we must be vigilant and informed about the leaders we choose to follow. We should not only evaluate their public personas and rhetoric but also examine their actions and motives. If we fail to do so, we risk being manipulated and exploited by individuals who claim to lead for the greater good but ultimately serve their own self-interests.
Finally, it is important to note that the information in this article is based on personal experiences and opinions. For more in-depth understanding and professional advice, please consult a mental health provider.