How Kind Words and Deeds Can Save Your Life: Lessons from Mental Health and Resilience

Mental health is a subject that affects us all, but it often flies under the radar until it becomes a pressing issue. In my life, there have been many people who have shown kindness and understanding, making significant impacts that saved me from despair. Each of these individuals, from a child to colleague, has left an indelible mark on my journey. Today, I want to share their stories and the importance of recognizing the power of such actions.

Kindness from Unexpected Places

One of the earliest acts of kindness that shaped my life came from a Mrs. Day. As a small child, Mrs. Day was the only adult who engaged with me and genuinely listened to my thoughts. Her simple act of acknowledging my existence and opinion planted the seeds of self-worth that have stayed with me. Another significant impact came from a stranger at a bus stop who whispered to me that 'nice things came in small packages,' a message that resonated deeply during a time when my family was making fun of my small stature. These small gestures reminded me that I was more than my physical appearance or the judgment of others.

Champions in Adversity: Teachers and Therapists

School was a place where kindness also took on a different form. A high school teacher who noticed me in the back staircase smoking provided a listening ear during my troubled times. His support made a significant difference in my life, showing me that someone cared. Similarly, a lady at family court played a crucial role by helping me find joy and laughter, breaking through the fear and intimidation tactics of an ex-partner. These acts of kindness were not only comforting but also empowering.

Later in life, when I was struggling with severe mental health issues, therapy became a lifeline. Visiting the mental health department of a hospital and going through the out processing program were unforgettably eye-opening experiences. Encountering people who were screaming, dealing with severe stress, or undergoing detoxification from alcohol addiction made me realize that my struggles were not unique. In fact, it was the thought of ending my life that was the most extreme form of despair. I felt a glimmer of hope when a therapist suggested that I should not feel like I was the only one going through such torture.

The Military: A Double-Edged Sword

The military experience further underscored the importance of mental health support. While military training aims at rigor and discipline, it can also contribute to the development of suicidal tendencies, especially among those who have issues with authority. The environment's high stress levels, intense training, and guidance systems can be overwhelming. For instance, the drill sergeants often demand compliance, which can be challenging for soldiers who value autonomy. The flip side is that this structured system can also offer a supportive framework that helps many soldiers avoid the pitfalls of paranoia and detachment.

Learning and Growth Through Tragedy and Survival

From these experiences, I have learned invaluable lessons about resilience and the power of mental health support. The people who saved my life often did so through small, seemingly insignificant gestures. It was the kindness of a stranger at a bus stop, the listening ear of a high school teacher, and the support of a therapist that kept me grounded during my darkest moments. These experiences have also shown me that even the most challenging environments can offer opportunities for growth and recovery.

Recovery and Professional Pursuits

Five years after my hospital stay, I have come a long way. The skills and insights gained through my therapeutic journey have not only healed my mental state but also led me to new career aspirations. I now aspire to become a therapist, drawing from the compassion and understanding of the giant psychologist who inspired me. Group therapy sessions and the experience of sharing and listening to others’ life stories have been particularly enriching.

Reflecting on these experiences, I realize that the kindness and support of others have been instrumental in my recovery. These lessons underscore the importance of mental health awareness, support systems, and the power of small acts of kindness. It is through these acts of generosity that we can save not just our own lives, but the lives of those around us.

Keywords: mental health, resilience, suicide prevention, therapy, gratefulness